Find a Blogging Buddy [Day 15 of 31 Days to Build a Better Blog from Problogger]

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Jonathan graduated with a degree in Business Administration from Ouachita Baptist University. He also holds a Masters in Business Administration from the University of Texas at Arlington. While he works for a contractor buying specialized tools, his passion is personal finance, frugal living, blogging, and stewardship.

Here’s my notes on Darren Rowse’s Problogger Free Podcast on 31 Days to Building a Better Blog. You can listen to Darren Rowse’s free podcast here Day 15 Find a Blogging Buddy. The complete list can read here on Day 0 – Welcome and Introduction.

Become A Problogger with Darren Rowse

In order for us all to get the full benefit of this series, I’m going to go at a slower pace posting going forward in September on Tuesdays each week. I hope with this challenge we are all able to improve our blogs and websites.

So lets do this together! Day 15 here we go! Subscribe and check back often! #31DBBB

Day 15: Today the challenge is to find a blogging buddy or to find your tribe.

Darren admits that he is an introvert. In some ways I am too. In other words introverts can be described as those of us that find our energy renewed by spending time in solitude. Yet when Darren reaches out to people it typically results in faster growth, better quality blogging, and great impact on readers.

Darren says it would have been very easy to give up blogging in the first few weeks in 2002 yet he stumbled upon a group of people who really changed his perspective of blogging. These people helped to answer questions, relieve fears, and overcome doubts. Darren says he gradually grew his knowledge about blogging and understanding of what he was doing.

There have been times when Darren felt burnt out and yet he was able to get encouragement from other bloggers. There were other times when he couldn’t find readers and other bloggers generously promoted his blog to their readers. Darren remembers starting new blogs and feeling out of his depth with the technical side of things. Only to have people reach out to him to help with such things as transitioning his website over to WordPress.

Darren also said people have helped him with blog monetization, AdSense, and affiliate programs. He remembers people helping him with his first products design, proof-reading, and setting up shopping carts. When exploring new mediums such as podcasts or starting new businesses getting support from others. Some even became partners and collaborators.

Darren says he has achieved so much more with the relationships he’s developed with other bloggers.

Darren on Blogging Buddies: “I’d never be where I am today without them.”

I have found several blogging buddies in the last few months. One of my blogging buddies is Steven Goodwin from Steven has been invaluable in helping me set up and navigate switching from Blogger to WordPress. If you need help with your blog and use WordPress Steven offers a variety of blogging services that would benefit you as well. I’m not sure I would’ve continued blogging after a month had it not been for Steven. We talked pretty much on a weekly basis at first. Now we try to keep in touch and at least talk on the phone once a month.

Geese And Long Distances

Canada Geese Flying at Sunrise --- Image by © Chase Swift/CORBIS

Darren says this reminds him a lot of how geese fly in formation long distances. Studies show that geese flying in formation fly 78% further when flying in formation than when flying alone. Aerodynamically, the lead bird in the formation breaks the air in front of the flock to create a slip stream. The other geese in formation, with their upward motion of their wings, push the lead forward with their momentum.  The geese take turns as the lead in the formation to share the load. If one goose gets sick or is injured a couple geese will stay behind to help and eventually fly once again in formation. There’s significant noise in the formation that some believe could be mutual support and encouragement.

Benefits of Having a Blogging Buddy:

  • Ability for you to brainstorm for content ideas, design ideas, or product ideas.
  • Someone who gets it and you can vent to others who understand what you’re going through.
  • Opportunities for collaboration and guest posting.
  • Opportunities to share links or have link parties.
  • Connect with others in order to grow your traffic.
  • Potential for inspiration and motivation by reading other blogs.
  • Swapping of skills with other bloggers. Perhaps one person is great at using WordPress, another person is fantastic at taking pictures, another is proficient at SEO, and another is good at monization.

Find a blogging buddy or some blogging buddies. Some of you already have formal mentors, mastermind, or Facebook groups. For others this could be a first. For others you may already be well involved with this. Regardless this will take some time.

Three Levels of Blogging:

1. Meeting Other Bloggers. You may not know other bloggers be it online or in real life. So you would be meeting other bloggers for the first time. Start the process by commenting on other blogs or emailing bloggers. You could even engage other bloggers on social media. Tell them you admire or are thankful for a piece of content they wrote. Maybe ask a question. Another opportunity is to attend an event or meet-up for bloggers.

2. Joining Blogging Groups. These could be great opportunities for development of friendships that could result in win-win collaboration. Some of the groups are localized while others are niche based. Some of them are private or invite only. If you can’t find one perhaps you could start that group. It could be a localized group or on a topic. If you want to ask around try the Problogger Facebook page.

3. Starting or Joining an Intentional Group. A lot of these groups are closed groups on Facebook or Linked In. Darren suggests a weekly or monthly call on Skype as a group. Simple format might be a win for the week, a challenge they’re facing, and a goal for the week. It would be a good idea to set up a Facebook group to interact between the calls. Over time your group will evolve to meet the needs of members.

Further resources:

Are you an introvert or extrovert? Do you have a blogging buddy or buddies or are you apart of any mentoring groups? If you do, how did you find them?

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Jonathan graduated with a degree in Business Administration from Ouachita Baptist University. He also holds a Masters in Business Administration from the University of Texas at Arlington. While he works for a contractor buying specialized tools, his passion is personal finance, frugal living, blogging, and stewardship.


  1. It’s always awesome to have a partner in crime, especially when building a blog. They get your through the tough times of mental blocks and bad ideas. Lol.

  2. I am in introvert and love to write in solitude but I have an awesome group of women – writers – surrounding me and they contribute to my blog. I am a member of a couple Facebook group but they are not designed to support each other in technical ways. They are more cross-promotional. I am not a “groupie” and tend to think for myself but am up all hours of the night researching information how to make my blog better. I also have designers who help me with the nuts and bolts. I tend to be a loner.
    Claudette recently posted…3 Roadblocks To An Awesome 2016My Profile

    • Claudette, it’s so good to find co-authors and friends when growing your blog. It is true that cross promotion is a good thing. However technical questions are a little more tricky. Blogging is a great way for loaners to connect with others. I am with you there. Thanks for reading and commenting!

  3. Thanks for sharing this article. I now know that I need a blogging buddy. I have one other friend who blogs so I think that she will be my blogging buddy. I’m also a member of FB groups and meet ups. Not many people go to the meet ups but I think I am going to attend more often.

    • Brittany being intentional about connecting with other bloggers is important. Facebook groups are great but face to face is so important. Or someone you can pick up the phone to call or Skype with. Meet ups can also be very useful. Thank you for stopping by, reading, and comment!

  4. Having Listened to Darren, I now understand exactly what you mean by Blog buddies. Its absolutely essential for Inspiration and helping one stay the course…unless they arent motivated.
    I belong to 2 such groups and a few cross promotional groups.

    I agree with what Darren says about having that initial support helps you stay on track. If anyone blogs they should indeed belong to a blog tribe. While I dont monetize via Adsense, I respect those that do.

    Thanks for sharing Jonathan!
    Julie Syl Kalungi recently posted…14 Killer Steps to Crush it and Build Your Online Business!My Profile

    • Julie I would agree with you. Having a blogging buddy certainly can help us stay the course. It is great to connect with others and particular those with in our niche. Crosspromotional groups also have their place and usefulness. Thank you for stopping by and reading!

    • Liz blog friends are awesome! I hear you on needing some alone time. It’s important to keep some time open in your schedule for “me time”. Particularly if you are an introvert. Thanks for reading!

  5. Blogging buddies can be a great help. In the beginning, they can help you overcome fears and talk you through some of the difficult parts using lay terms. After a couple years, it’s also nice to pass it along and help those just starting out–and it makes you appreciate how far you’ve come!
    Deborah recently posted…Where To Get Cheap FabricMy Profile

  6. I’ve tried a few different mentoring partnerships…unfortunately as a newbie I’m not in much of a position to help someone grow their blog (but I am an English teacher, so I can always proofread and edit!). I’ve not yet met someone far enough along to help me, so flounder a bit here. I think it’s an advantage…it’s just finding someone!
    Thanks for all the advice 🙂
    Helen recently posted…Praying for Kids – Teaching Them They Can {Guest Post}My Profile

    • Angie I can relate to you on the ambivert thing. Learned a new word today too! Yes FB groups are great but finding a good tribe by connecting with those in your niche is even better. Try out Skype, FaceTime, or OoVoo sometime with a blogging friend. It’s a really fun experience. Or even a phone call is good too. Thanks for reading!

  7. I’ve got some truly great blogging buddies! And it’s funny because they’ve been in waves. When I first began the Lord brought along a set of very experienced Christian bloggers that I learned so much from. But we grew apart and then i moved on to another group of girls. IT’s been different as the month go along. But I totally agree with your post here! Where would we be without each other?!?!
    Danielle Wells recently posted…How to Put Your Husband Through CollegeMy Profile

    • Denise one good way to find a blogging buddy is to find someone in your niche you could guest post for. Another idea is to go to a blocking convention or workshop. A blogging buddy can be very helpful. Thanks for stopping by!

  8. I am for sure an introvert. My dream job would be online with very little need to talk to people. I have a few other bloggers that are friends who read my material and share, but nothing consistent. I’m not sure blogging is the end goal for me. I feel like I need someone to help me make my blog develop some reach, but I hate pushing my blog on people. There is something hard about marketing myself. Sigh.
    Jennifer DeFrates/Heaven Not Harvard recently posted…Beautifully Taken for GrantedMy Profile

    • Jennifer, I hear you on the online job preference. Are you in any FB reciprocation groups? Yes, determining what your end goal is would be helpful in giving you direction for how your blog fits into that. Feel free to email or private message me if I can help in any way. I agree it’s hard to market ourselves but unless we pay someone else to do it nobody else will. I’m there with you about it being hard. Yet typically anything that is worthwhile is challenging. Hang in there! Thanks for reading and commenting!

    • Tara that’s great that you’re finding some community on Facebook. Yes having individual, personal blogging buddies is a great idea too! Private message me if you are interested in joining some blogging groups that might facilitate that. Thank you for stopping by and commenting!

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